Hi there client #7, before I delve into your question about being a stick in the mud, let us first look at your natal chart to see where you are coming from.

You are a Sun sign Capricorn with your Moon in Virgo and ascendant (rising sign) in Sagittarius .You have 44% earth in your chart which is excessive, but manageable. You are after all an Earth sign (Capricorn) and would be able to handle the energy. My only concern here would be your Sagittarius rising, ruled by Jupiter, whilst Capricorn is ruled by Saturn ... Jupiter expands where as Saturn limits, which would more often than not cause you internal conflict, 'Should I or shouldn't I take a chance' etc. etc. - creating doubt. This creates a push-pull effect and leaves you pondering and procrastinating. You also have 42% of your planets in Cardinal signs and houses, showing me that you are a go getter. Hence, when Saturn restricts, this will result in feelings of frustration as your desire is to follow that Jupiter path of expansion. Naturally you understand restriction, but the time will come in your life when you ask yourself 'Where to from here?'

You have your Midheaven in the sign of Virgo and are thus seen as a perfectionist in your dealings with people on a public level, indicating a successful person. You understand ambition and will do your utmost to be seen as a professional. This is accentuated by your Mercury in Capricorn, having that built-in ability to think clearly, with amazing accuracy and insight. Mercury does however; also form an in-conjunction with your chart ruler (Jupiter), which is the cause of that Mercurial irritation erupting every now and then. Furthermore, it is at the apex of a T-square between Uranus and Saturn, once again exerting that push pull effect, especially when you get that 'aha' idea which never comes to fruition because of your cautious nature, so inherent with Capricorn. You are being blocked from connecting to your higher, inner self and this frustrates you. Therefore, what is the reward for expressing this ultra perfectionist and professional image? Does it really benefit you? Or do you find yourself sitting back and thinking, what for? To please others? Assess your motives as honestly as you can, and determine whether it's really all worth it.

To further complicate matters, you are in the midst of your midlife crisis (there are 6 major planetary configurations during this time, age 38 to 44) and the man you speak of is in the throngs of his Saturn return, both uneasy energies to deal with. My first instinct would be to say, do not make any decisions right now until you are both truly certain that you want this. Being aware that he is much younger than you and knowing it will require time is key.

A midlife crisis is largely about gaining self mastery and brings about the realisation that we have not truly formed an accurate assessment of who we are. Most people go through this, some having less trauma than others, but it is definitely a change of one's perception of how life ought to be. Some simply ignore this learning curve and wonder why they turn into bitter old people. The answer is simple; they refused to deal with their issues when the opportunity presented itself. The midlife crisis affords you this opportunity and astrology aids us in addressing these challenges. So ask yourself, do you know who you are, right now?

Personally, I feel you are afraid of growth as is clear by the activity of the chart ruler Jupiter with Sagittarius rising (the rising sign is our mask to others, our mechanism of self preservation). All you need to do is be yourself. Let go of all those layers of self defence which you have accumulated over the years and just allow yourself to do your own thing. Do not concern yourself unduly with what others say, pursue what it is that YOU want, dispelling the doubt which holds you back (Virgo Moon). Be honest towards yourself first. Others with acknowledge and respect this. Go release your Jupiter and just be.

You have all these vital statistics to make a success of whatever you do, so don't let others thwart you in your efforts to get ahead. Parental conditioning has played a big part in making you who you are (Saturn in the 4th house), so whatever belief system you had then, can be altered. The earth is constantly changing and so will all the inhabitants on it. Change for your optimum Soul development and move forwards WITHOUT INTERFERENCE from others who may think they know better, when in fact, they don't!

You are about to have transiting Uranus oppose natal Uranus, this being the peak of your midlife crisis (15 April 2009). This is the time when you will suddenly want to break free , do things differently or rebelliously , break free from restrictions , change jobs , change career , find a lover or simply run away from responsibility . Transiting Uranus will also conjunct your natal Saturn (7 April 2009) , thereby triggering your T-square (Mercury/Saturn/Uranus) and therefore you will change your way of thinking about career versus home life and how you fit into it all . Many people around this time wonder how they got to this point and start re-evaluating their lifestyle and ambitions. Transiting Uranus is also going over your fourth house cusp, so a sudden move of home is possible in the next few years, if you haven't done so already (this may be the result of career choices or relationship choices - please choose carefully.)

You are furthermore about to experience life changing happenings, because you have Pluto going through your first house. Pluto will ensure that ONLY WHAT YOU NEED remains, discarding everything which is of no use to you. You may not always be aware of it, but if you are, it will be futile to fight it, because Pluto will eliminate anything which no longer serves you. It may not seem very pleasant at the time, but the end result will be in your favour. The bottom line here is to follow and trust your intuition.

Follow the energy of expansion, calculated risk and faith in a higher power. You are constantly being pushed into caution and restraint by Saturn, which is very prevalent in your horoscope when you should just free fall and take that chance in life. Please remember that you have been conditioned into your current way of cautious thinking by your parents or guardians, so give the relationship a chance and assess your role in it. As well as if it is for the right reasons or not. We are often forced into challenging situations to give us clues about our spiritual purpose and whether we are on the right career path. Do not fight the energy, but rather go with the flow and make your decisions calmly. There are different ways of doing this, so do things differently now. At this time I would certainly prioritise with your career/business because you need to get yourself out of the situation you are in. Survival is always of high priority, so if you are not financially independent, that will only impact your relationships negatively.

Please consider all your current decisions carefully and I would strongly recommend that you visit an astrologer in your area in order to look deeper at your situation, because it is in your own interest to move those 'tectonic' plates in your favour! It is a gift which you must give yourself and you will succeed. You have the potential; it is simply a matter of using your potential to its fullest.

With gratitude, Harry